what’s been weighing on my mind

Just over 3 weeks ago, my 3-year-old nephew, my sister’s older son, was diagnosed with cancer. He’s got a very large tumor on his kidney. The “good” news is that it was determined to be a very treatable kind, a Wilms tumor, with a very high rate of survival (90%). While we are very optimistic, things continue to be uncertain from day-to-day. (And sometimes even from hour to hour. I have learned today that my nephew will go in for surgery this afternoon.)

My sister started a blog to share updates, and she has given me permission to share the link. She has been very eloquently describing the emotional roller-coaster that has been this past few weeks.

We would greatly appreciate your positive thoughts, emotional support and/or prayers. All denominations and belief systems gladly accepted.

26 thoughts on “what’s been weighing on my mind

  1. Oh man. :(

    I’m so sorry. Things sound hopeful, but still, how scary. I’m adding her blog to my reader. Thanks for sharing the link.

    1. Thanks, az. Yes, we’re really grateful for the treatable part. I’m so grateful for all of the advances in medicine of the last few decades.

  2. I will keep your nephew and your family in my thoughts and prayers. It just sucks. I wish no one EVER had to go through something like that, least of all a sweet little boy.

    It’s very strange, but just yesterday night I was reading a short story collection by Lorrie Moore, and the last piece in it was actually a non-fiction essay about the author’s three year old son’s illness – also a Wilm’s tumor on one of his kidneys. It’s difficult to read (though her son is now better), but might also be helpful to a parent who is going through what sounds like the exact same thing. If you’d like, I could send you (or your sister) my copy.

    Sending you all my best . . .


    1. Thanks, Rima. And wow, that is a coincidence about reading the essay involving Wilms. I’d never even heard of it before all this started with my nephew.

      I keep meaning to ask my sister if she’d be interested in the book. If she’s not, I am. I’ll get back to you.

  3. Oh no, how awful! That must be about the scariest thing for a parent to go through, even if (thank goodness) it is a highly treatable cancer. Your poor sister. I wish her and her son–and the rest of the family, including you–all the best of luck, and I’ll keep you all in my very strongest spiritual-ish-Jewish-atheist prayers.

    1. Thanks, Sally. Yes, I think this qualifies as a nightmare scenario for a parent.

      Thanks so much for your “very strongest spiritual-ish-Jewish-atheist prayers.” I appreciated the description as well as the sentiment.

  4. Wow, that is a lot to take in. Positive thoughts and hugs coming your (and your sister and nephew’s) way.

    One of the things that I’ve been practicing lately in yoga is sending intention and honoring someone who needs positive vibes…I’ll think of you guys next time.

  5. I went to your sister’s website and saw that the tumor is out! Ok. I will not shout or scream. I will knock on wood. Keep my fingers crossed while continuing to be thinking of you and your family.

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